It is just as bad as the person who works 63

It is just as bad as the person who works 63 From work in emotional intelligence, I have email on some pretty bad managers (and their colleagues, the colleagues and subordinates). The work occupies much of our life, and chronic poverty in the workplace is stressful. The number of frequently asked questions, is this possible? Fix? if I find the more emotional intelligence? The answer is yes? but probably not the way you? re thinking. You can make a bad person, with its beautiful EQ skills such as empathy? You may be able to improve the situation, but? Sa big, it depends. Here? And what it depends. As has been said? A problem can be corrected, a fact that just to live with? and you know what? research. Can never control another person and that the way you want? No. Can I change? Sometimes, if you have the desire to get along. You can change your view? Always.Now how do we know what we can work personality, and what is possible? No? Narcissistic rage. How to get to this end, we? Will be heard. What? Known as S? The famous narcissistic rage. Sabes que si? Tired coming to you. What? Sa-blind, ugly, vicious and senseless kind of anger, an attack. Now, consider a typical scenario of work. His manager is not the highest EQ. Stress is a term such as construction approaches. Suddenly (s) that blows. Someone has done something, or combinations of them said, and burst into an adaptation of rabies. You can insult or yell or throw something, on foot or in a Tantrum. So the next step? leave? s say you decide to try some of their EQ. Through empathy, you realize the person was under the added stress of the moment. However, it can be? Do not tolerate it called a head or incompetent boob, or the captain for what was insulting epithet, and that was the last straw in a bad situation to begin work. After a reflection, when? I was calm and able to think, to find a good time to go and talk to the director. You raise what has happened. You say you think, your desire to be treated with greater respect, for example? Leave? S bury but to be buried? and, in general, we try to speak out. And the reaction? If the person is good with some show of introspection, remorse and the desire to make things better. They agree that state? Not in the best possible way. To join a conversation about this and take a look at what? S on.If will, on the other hand, the fly in a new fashion, what? Have made further enrage is a narcissistic manager, and we? S clue.Such their states? So who are under stress? o? I? I am doing the best we can here and want this department shine. How? o? No? helps me not do my best when I can do? called m? an idiot? sentences are generated in a narcissistic rage, and something like the connection of a good-bad-for-the-past moment.Narcissists have low self-esteem and can also check the fans. These statements of feelings that can? N. address, so that the anger. For almost everything that implies that they say, yes, the guilt (weak, unable to control), which quickly tu into something of their guilt, anger and blind, because they feel better. And here? s the true test of emotional intelligence. Empathy and communication skills (interpersonal) skills are, but others, such as personal power, intuition, and reality testing. In this case, as to their application? Personal Power means recognizing that it is useless and hopeless. Could be helpless and hopeless in the face trying to change the narcissist, but not without hope and help to address the reality and the care of himself, asking for the transfer, which covers the same time it must remain there, with nothing This person, taking care not to disclose? weaknesses? that can (and) be used against you, and it is therefore necessary to document the documentation, and action in their own names, like to get your resume ready.Intuition? Her instinct that the change has to shout to you? This is not good. How your intuition speaks there is a personal thing. You can get a sense of sinking? Sabes? the person can? not approached a man and half sick. The hair may be lifted in the back of the neck. Palmas could sweat. You can get a chill or weak knees? fear in all its manifestations. There? S nothing wimpy about this. A person who is really bad for others, and indeed a delight for the service, you should raise this reaction in you, and should be heard. What? And what our gut instincts are to: maintain safe.This gives you the tools for rapid test reality. The physiological response you get from your body will help you to test reality. If the meeting went well, would be the equivalent of a warm feeling in your stomach. Again, ISN? Not a wussy thing. You must have a sense of satisfaction and hope, with two physiological events. Rent voltage. A relief. You could also end up laughing with the women (or men), it is tued off, as evil and decides to move forward.The person who falls into bad behavior under stress, but shows a picture of their behavior, and conce for others could benefit from training. May be depressed, overwhelmed, or simply have not had the opportunity to lea the skills of equalization, or understand how their behavior impacts others. In addition, it could be moved into a position where they no longer receive the kind of feedback that helps us adjust our behavior to all mature and remain honest.The person who shows no remorse and without vision, is not coachable and are not? fixable? for you. If you receive the message (your intuition) you? Trying again with a person who does not? Not careful, be careful. So what? S time to protect themselves and do what they can not raise again the narcissistic rage, while plans are made to obtain it elsewhere. Stress can be a long-term, while maintaining, but you can lea how to tolerate better, and also to reduce the chances of falling back on you. Tuing the other cheek? not working with a narcissistic personality. What you get is one more slap in the other cheek. Do not let your empathy to interfere with their common sense. You can feel the suffering of another person, the collapse of the ego, or the desperate need for control, but do not let this understanding of the reasons above that the person is the abuse of sharing. Regardless of traumatic events in their past, that in this type of personality, is not an excuse for bad behavior, and there is no reason to justify the abuse, so that you do not rationalize. This EQ is a good example, because in this case it is necessary to leave the thinking brain (rationalization) and the emotional brain (instincts) of reality, you should do testing.People get promoted? Take the blinders off and Ser use your EQ. It could save his career, not to mention their health. The author? Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach. Executive, professional and individual coaching in emotional intelligence. Inteet courses, teleclasses and ebooks. Mailto: sdunn@susandunn.cc FREE ezine. Put? Ezine? for the object.